Thursday, March 28, 2013


Two Teenage girls discuss the night's business with their pimp in Waterbury, Connecticut.

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Wednesday, March 27, 2013


Here is a three minute "hidden" video I shot flying out of Bagram Airfield. Don't miss the instructions from the "flight attendant" on how we share four oxygen masks between 50 people.

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Tuesday, March 26, 2013


My friend, JoAnn and I were sharing a couple of appetizers at a very nice restaurant in Connecticut. We were surrounded by regulars, barflies, and others looking to find someone with whom they would share their night – or their life.

Malala Yousufzai

Meeting JoAnn you get the idea she entered life fully formed. Smart, beautiful, and brutally honest, people listen to her, and they should. Her words carry the weight of someone who has walked through the fire  . . . and come out the other side not wounded and fearful, but stronger and filled with wise compassion. You don’t mess with her. Not because you’ll get in trouble if you do, but because she simply won’t allow it. She can’t tolerate anything or anyone who is not genuine. She has that kind of rare courage.

JoAnn doesn’t judge and refuses to be judged. So, she was perfectly comfortable telling me how terrible men can sometimes be to women . . . and why so many women allow it to happen.

She punctuated her point with five words that left me speechless and staring at my calamari like an idiot. “It’s a holocaust of women!”

She struck me with a rare, perfect truth. It’s a holocaust of women.

With those five words I finally saw every moment of history scorched by the fire into which we have thrown women. And it only burns hotter as women struggle out of the molten furnace, an inferno fueled by their purely feminine dreams, ideas, spirits, and hearts.

Men, all men, are guilty of this eternal arson. We started the fire. We fan its insatiable flames. And by doing nothing to extinguish it, we have emasculated our own gender. Men and women have been diminished by our man crimes. All of humanity suffers, yet again, at the hands of arrogant men, men who refuse to see beyond the limitations inherited by our fathers.

Am I being too hard on men? I haven’t even gotten started. And please keep in mind, I don’t give a damn.

How many extraordinary, life-altering works of art, pieces of music, books, inventions, discoveries, philosophies, laws, medicines, sermons . . . and daughters, have been lost to the collective of our human experience simply because they were born of a woman?

All that could have been is lost forever in the smoke of the holocaust of women.

The story of Malala Yousufzai alone is enough to convict men. Malala is a 15-year-old girl who had the audacity to speak openly for the education of females in Pakistan. She was shot in the head for her opinions. It was men who shot her. And as a man, you and I have no right to judge those who pulled the trigger. What I am telling you is that the terrible evil that brought those men to shoot a little girl is in each of us.

Her courage blatantly exposes the cross cultural cowardice carried out by men throughout time, by all of us.

This is not an exceptional case because she is a young woman of courage. There are countless women and girls like her hidden throughout the centuries. No. Hers is a story worth telling because the bullets missed that beautiful young mind.

It is a truth we must face because this time men failed to do to Malala Yousufzai what they have succeeded in doing to women and girls every day since humans became sentient beings.

Perhaps we have finally entered a point in our evolution as a species where bullets cannot kill an idea . . . or the women who boldly express them. The world knows about Malala now. That would not have been true only a few years ago. Now we not only recognize her act of valor, but its place in a long journey of previously shrouded women who were shot, burned, tortured, raped, mutilated, imprisoned or simply ignored for their courage.

So don’t kid yourself into thinking that American men have evolved beyond the millennia of cerebral hard wiring nor strict cultural training that continues the holocaust of women.

We are brilliant at MANanipulating women into thinking they must be controlled, limited, even suppressed by the men, or the man, in their lives. They believe they are not complete without one from whom they take their commands.

Certainly, these are not men at all. Not one among this type can truly be described as a man. They are puppet masters, seeking to tie their strings to whatever woman will willingly be ensnared by them. We have convinced women that they need us for all the wrong reasons. From troubled victims of the sex industry who refuse to disconnect from their pimps to professional women who cannot let go of that one man who continues to bring her sorrow and loss, why are women so eager to be enslaved by these charming and destructive males?

Fathers forever set the value of self-worth in the minds of their daughters. As fathers we have become unknowingly brilliant at convincing our daughters that they are only as good as we say they are. It is no wonder that women blindly seek men who treat them as well – or more often – as poorly as did their own fathers. They will do anything to fill the void their fathers created: an emptiness of spirit, an abandoned and fearful heart.

As fathers, we have refused to provide the emotional intimacy our daughters need, and crave, to nurture the greatness waiting within them. We don’t openly kill it, of course. But we do ignore it. The result is the same. It lies dormant until she climbs up beyond our ignorance and discovers the depth of her being . . . or it waits for another man to enter her life and suppress her once again. This, after all, is what we’ve taught her to do: let the man take you, posses you, control you, no matter what you must sacrifice.

The worst damage we do to women is force our own fear and pain upon them. As a result, they become terrified of experiencing the thing they are best at, the most valuable and important dynamic of the human experience: brilliant emotional intimacy.

Each time this happens the cost is yet another life unlived.

Ultimately, men lead her to the fire. There, the flames gladly consume whatever she would have become, whatever love she would have shared, whatever help she would have given, whatever frontier she would have discovered, whatever healing, help, genius, compassion, humor, and courage - her divine gifts – that were so ready to flourish and inspire.

No doubt our world would be a far better one if the women who have been lost to their holocaust – a holocaust started and maintained by men - had been able to stand up and become fully formed. No doubt it would have taken far better men to extinguish those murderous flames, men courageous enough to stand back and let women be women.


Monday, March 18, 2013


The secret is out.

It doesn’t hide. It’s right on the the world’s most popular Social Network: Facebook.

Sex for Sale on Facebook . . . and they do nothing to stop it.

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Thursday, March 14, 2013

Why Human Traffickers Don’t Go To Prison

On March 29, 2012, a 35-page arrest warrant was unsealed by New Britain Superior Court in Connecticut. The details of this one case reveal much about how the world of human trafficking is alive and well in every community across America . . . and why those guilty of these crimes rarely see appropriate justice.

According to court documents, several witnesses told Connecticut State Police investigators that their fellow State Police Trooper, Pearl Kelly-Paris, actively ran a human trafficking operation with her husband, Jaykuan Paris. Jaykuan is the brother of Dennis Paris, a Connecticut man who is currently serving a 30-year federal prison sentence for “sex trafficking of a minor” among several other human trafficking crimes. That case is the subject of my recent book, “The Berlin Turnpike: A True Story of Human Trafficking in America.”

Together, Jaykuan and Pearl operated the illegal business out of their New Britain, Connecticut home and through a local phone service. Similar to the extensive investigation which led to the previous arrest and conviction of his brother, Dennis, State police were able to trace information confirming the illegal activity by tapping Jaykuan Paris’ cell phones and land lines. This most recent investigation began after federal investigators found information that Jaykuan and Pearl were arranging “for the prostitution of several females, in some cases by means of force, fraud and/or coercion” – the legal definition of human trafficking - and that they regularly advertised in the “escort” section of several websites including

Indeed, along with his wife, Jaykuan Paris was a pimp for several women in Connecticut. The words of the witnesses/victims in these statements clearly expose the truth behind the abuse women suffer from the tyrannical behavior of their violent pimps. According to the victims under his control Jaykuan would regularly “beat his women” if they received “bad reviews” on “escort” service websites. The users of these sites, often men who refer to themselves as “hobbyists,” readily “chat” about and “rate” the women whose sexual services they have paid for

Another witness/victim told police that while Pearl was on active-duty as a Connecticut State Trooper she arrived at a motel in Rocky Hill, Connecticut - in uniform and driving her State Police cruiser - and handed a digital camera to her husband, Mr. Paris. He then proceeded to photograph the witness/victim, his wife, Pearl - the Trooper - and another woman. All three women, including the State Trooper, wore black lingerie and face masks for the photographs. He then posted the photos throughout online “escort” advertisements in The “escort” ads would then generate calls from men looking to pay for sex.

Even though the two-year State and Federal investigation proved that both Jaykuan Paris and Pearl Kelly-Parris were in clear violation of human trafficking crimes as defined by the Trafficking Victims Protection Act of 2000 (TVPA), neither have been charged accordingly.

Jaykuan was arrested in November, 2011 and charged by the State of Connecticut only with second-degree promoting prostitution. He pleaded No Contest and will serve less than four years in prison. Pearl was arrested in May, 2012 and charged by the State of Connecticut with second-degree promoting prostitution and second-degree conspiracy to promote prostitution. She has pleaded not guilty to each of these crimes. Her trial date has been postponed several times and has not yet taken place.

Since both were guilty of the same crimes, why did one brother, Dennis Paris, receive a Federal Human Trafficking conviction, along with a 30-year sentence, while the other brother, Jaykuan, was allowed to plead No Contest to far less serious State charges – even though Jaykuan used far more violence against his victims than Dennis?

The answer points to drastic and dangerous inconsistencies in the enforcement of State Human Trafficking laws throughout the United States. Many of these laws are less than ten years old. And most have not yet been tested in court due to prosecutorial cowardice. Quite simply, no State Prosecutor wants to be the first to try someone under a new law, no matter how clear the violation. The risk to their career as a prosecutor, should the case be thrown out on some technicality, turned over on appeal, or worse, outright lost to the defense, is too great. No one wants to be the first person to mess up a State Human Trafficking trial.

The consequence is that State Prosecutors simply reduce the charges to some lesser crime – like “promoting prostitution” – with which they are more familiar and are almost guaranteed a conviction.

“We tried for more, but this is all they would do,” explained a Connecticut State Police Spokesperson when I asked him about the comparatively minor charges against Jaykuan and Pearl. He was talking about the evidence the State Police had and the limited charges with which the Connecticut State Prosecutors returned.

The current situation is this: Federal prosecutors simply do not have the financial or human resources to convict every crime that is presented to them, even though their own investigators (FBI, IRS, ICE, etc.) have overwhelming evidence. Using a criteria they will never publicly admit, they prioritize the cases into which they will to pour their time, talent and treasure. The rest they offer back to the States where the crimes took place. It’s then up to the individual States to decide whether or not to prosecute and what laws to use to get a conviction.
Since Human Trafficking laws are relatively new and virtually untested, serious crimes that are clearly in violation of Federal Law are reduced to relatively minor charges . . . and therefore become easy convictions for prosecutors.

It is a dilemma that leaves victims with no real justice. The solution is to first recognize that this perceived high-professional-risk situation exists for prosecutors. Then, State Legislatures must provide more viable prosecutorial tools for human trafficking laws to be used. This means that legislators will have to listen to prosecutors and pass laws that will allow human traffickers to be convicted of human trafficking crimes.

Currently, the Connecticut State Legislature is considering two bills which would not only help victims of human trafficking, but also give them incentives to become active – and protected – witnesses against their former pimps. One law promises financial restitution to victims. The other expunges the “prostitution” criminal record of anyone who is identified as a human trafficking victim. The combination of these two laws would begin to build the arsenal for state prosecutors who sincerely want justice done.

If these laws had been in place two years ago, perhaps Jaykuan and Dennis would be sharing a cell in Federal prison today.

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